My last therapy session felt different. I told my therapist that I felt… weird. Not bad, not good—just like I was floating in an unfamiliar space. I told him that I felt like I had been stripped of every aspect of my life, like I didn’t know where I was anymore. Like I do, but I don’t. I am not sad, I am not overjoyed, I just AM.
So, I broke my life down into different sectors—career, relationships, friendships, personal growth—and told him that, in each of these areas, I felt a sense of emptiness. I wasn’t overwhelmed or consumed by anything specific, but there was this lingering feeling of vacancy, like something was missing. Everything is meh.
That’s when he looked at me and said, “That’s because you’re no longer choosing into what’s familiar.”
And in my case, what had been familiar for so long was chaos and toxicity.
Something inside of me clicked. That one sentence shifted my entire perspective. It made me realize that while I may not be exactly where I want to be, I am not where I used to be—and that alone is powerful.
Distancing myself from people, situations, and patterns that no longer serve me has been one of the hardest but most necessary things I’ve ever done. Growth is uncomfortable, and right now, I am in a season of shedding. But just because things feel unfamiliar doesn’t mean I am lost.
I need to remind myself that not everything in nature blooms year-round. Some seasons are for blossoming, and others are for resting, preparing, and regrowing. Right now, I am in the latter. And that’s okay.
Instead of feeling uneasy about where I am, I need to be grateful and excited for where I am going. Because even if it doesn’t feel like it, I am exactly where I need to be.
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Alejandra