Girl, let me save you some time and heartache: don’t write the paragraph. You know the one—the long, heartfelt explanation of your feelings, your frustrations, and all the ways you’ve tried to make him understand what you need. Don’t waste your energy, because that man is not going to read it. And if he does, he’s not going to absorb it.
Trust me, I’ve learned this the hard way. A man who requires you to write a paragraph has already made up his mind. He’s not confused, and he’s not oblivious. He’s not dumb; he understands exactly what you’re asking for. The problem isn’t that he doesn’t get it—it’s that he’s not willing to give it to you.
So, what happens next? You pour your heart into a text, re-reading it a dozen times, carefully choosing your words. You hit send, and then you wait. And when he finally replies? It’s with a thumbs-up emoji or a one-word “OK.” And now you’re even madder than you were before, because not only has he ignored your emotions, but he’s also made it clear that your effort didn’t matter to him.
Here’s the truth: the loudest response you can give is no response at all. Don’t write to him. Don’t explain yourself for the 101st time. He’s heard you. He just doesn’t care enough to change. And you’re only draining yourself by trying to force someone to value what they’ve already shown they don’t.
Move on. Leave that man alone and let him deal with the consequences of his actions—or inactions. Whatever fallout comes next, that’s his problem, not yours. By walking away, you’re reclaiming your time, energy, and self-respect. You’re choosing yourself, and that’s the most powerful statement you can make.
So next time you feel tempted to type out that long message, stop. Close the app. Take a deep breath. And remind yourself: a man who truly cares won’t need the paragraph. He’ll already be listening.
xoxo,
Alejandra