Recovering from a relationship with a narcissist is no easy feat. I know because I’ve been there. I’ve dated my fair share of narcissists, and the aftermath of those relationships left me feeling shattered, confused, and entirely unlike myself.
It wasn’t until I started therapy after one particularly abusive relationship that I truly understood the damage that had been done. My therapist explained how enduring emotional and physical abuse from a narcissistic partner can literally change your brain chemistry. The constant gaslighting, manipulation, and power plays designed to control and diminish you leave scars that run deep.
For years after the relationship ended, I doubted myself constantly. Every decision I made felt like a monumental task. I questioned my instincts, my intelligence, and even my worth. It was as though I had lost the core of who I was. I found myself second-guessing everything, consulting friends and family for reassurance over even the simplest choices.
Their reactions were always the same: “Alejandra, you’re so confident, strong, and smart—what’s going on?” And that was the most painful part: I used to be confident, strong, and smart. But the relationship had stripped me of those qualities, replacing them with self-doubt and fear.
The journey to regaining my sense of self wasn’t linear, nor was it quick. It took years of therapy, self-reflection, and, most importantly, patience with myself. I had to remind myself of who I am—of my worth, my intelligence, and my resilience. Slowly but surely, I began to see the light again.
One of the most important lessons I learned along the way was that healing isn’t about becoming the person you were before. It’s about embracing the new version of yourself—one who has been through the fire and come out stronger.
To anyone currently navigating the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship: know that you are not alone. The path to healing is challenging, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. You’ll rediscover your strength, rebuild your confidence, and reclaim the life you deserve.
Above all, remember this: You are worthy of love, respect, and kindness—especially from yourself.
To those who stood by me during this time, thank you. And to myself, I say this: I am proud of the woman I’ve become. I’ve embraced the journey, and for that, I am deeply grateful.
Here’s to healing, growth, and never forgetting who TF we are. 💚
xoxo,
ALEJANDRA!!!